Honestly NH Mom I think this was a chance for you both to be open and honest. I think if you had talked it out it may have been a good opportunity. He was reaching out and he is saying he wants to be heard.
Why not give it the chance? I don't mean to sound like a know it all. I hope you can work it out and to me this seems like a chance.
Maybe you could call him and say...thank you for offering to talk...I want us to share and be open.
Don't let your pain lead to defensiveness or you will miss opportunites!
