Molly, I didn’t have time to post more than I did, and now I find you’ve gotten a lot of good advice from a lot of people I respect. I have little to add. You can see you are not alone. There is a lot to absorb, and respond to.
Your posts will take awhile to show up. Everyone is moderated in the beginning. Don’t worry they will get approved and eventually you’ll come off moderation. Use the time to read other threads, post to others also.
Some of us had more time to DB than we initially thought. My W waited almost a year to file. I suspect you have more time than you think. Use it wisely.
Recognize when you begin to feel over whelmed. Take a couple of deep breaths and change the scenery. Even that simple exercise will help one cope.
I know it is difficult with children, but I suggest getting out and doing something new with new people. Challenge yourself. I know it doesn’t seem like the time to do so when your world is crashing down around you. I submit now is precisely the time to GAL. If you can make endorphins while GALing so much the better.
I joined an archery league and a CC ski group, TG took up horseback riding, and 25’s list includes standup comic.
The point is to find things to do that take you out of this sitch and give distraction, something else to think about. It is not perfect and it takes a while, but it helps and eventually works better than I thought it would.
Lastly this site is for you, do not show H your posts as it will likely work against you.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
