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Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Grmpy_Mnky #2213898 01/18/12 09:37 PM
Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,326 C Crimson OP Member
OP Crimson Member C Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,326	Yeah - I keep feeling like I need to "do" something, but I would figure now would be an ideal time for me to quietly glide back into the woodwork for a bit. I probably WILL give her a brief response to her "I'll never understand why my leaving was the only thing that worked" remark. Truthfully, I almost put that in the letter, but decided against it. Outside of that, IF I elect to do it - I figure I have little else to proactively say at the moment. I can just hope that she lets everything kind of soak in. I will say this, though - her admitting that she is "deeply heartbroken" kind of explains why she lets loose with a touch of anger on me every now and then. Crimson

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Crimson #2213945 01/19/12 12:34 AM
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OP Crimson Member C Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,326	Ok then. What's this mean? Got text from w this afternoon. "Do you still see same counselor? Do you think it would be a good idea to do a joint session to process your letter. It is overwhelming to me." Not sure what to think......VERY open to commentary right now. Is this a good thing?

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Crimson #2213948 01/19/12 12:40 AM
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25yearsmlc Member 2 Joined: Apr 2006 Posts: 13,511 Likes: 1 CA- now East coast	it is GREAT wtf? It's great Crimson...Jesus... M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 2016 X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016 = CLOSURE 4 ME Embrace the Change

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Crimson #2213949 01/19/12 12:45 AM
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labug Member L Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 9,676 Sonoran Desert	The seed is perhaps starting to sprout. Go slow but be positive. How about: "Yes, I still see the same counselor. Would you like me to see if I can set up an appt for us?" Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13 Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 labug #2213953 01/19/12 01:11 AM
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OP Crimson Member C Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 1,326	I told her that I'd been meaning to make an appt for me. She asked if I thought it would be a good idea. I said "yes" and that I would set it up. I am kinda scared to be excited......but I am happy. Shocked. Keeping expectations LOW. Crimson.

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Crimson #2213955 01/19/12 01:16 AM
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labug Member L Joined: Nov 2011 Posts: 9,676 Sonoran Desert	Good, stick to your game plan. You have a lot of people rooting for you. Maybe I should write a letter. Could you post the template? Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13 Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Crimson #2213956 01/19/12 01:20 AM
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2thepoint Member 2 Joined: Sep 2011 Posts: 1,711	Holy canoli, Crimson! Talk about divine intervention. Not only did the judge not show for your hearing today, but your W has extended an olive branch, heck it is more like an olive tree! This is really a fantastic development! Take it slow, expect nothing and hope for the best. Be careful not to over do it. Just take it slow! Me51 W53 S17 S14 M22 T25 Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11 It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation. Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 labug #2213958 01/19/12 01:45 AM
Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 335 WA K kolja Member
kolja Member K Joined: Dec 2011 Posts: 335 WA	Originally Posted By: labug Good, stick to your game plan. You have a lot of people rooting for you. Maybe I should write a letter. Could you post the template? Lol me too! Here's hoping things go well for you - first good thing I've heard (ok, read) all afternoon! Me: 36 Her: 35 Together 7/09 Married 8/7/10 Separate rooms since at least April 11 "I've decided I want a divorce" 12/5/11 She moves out of state/files 2/7/12 Dissolution final 5/12

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 Crimson #2213982 01/19/12 03:19 AM
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rickb89 Member R Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,119	Crimson...this is such great news....you have to go to the counselor with her!!!!! Pls stay calm and don't overwhelm her. This is your chance to let her speak, listen with all your heart and show her the strong loving man you are. This is such good news. I'm praying for you and your family. Keep all you have learned in the forefront.

Re: Never thought I's be here.........Part 6 labug #2213983 01/19/12 03:24 AM
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rickb89 Member R Joined: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,119	Crimson - be cool a about this but I think your ltr, the judge no show, and your W reaching out might mean she is ready to look back to you. now is the time to be cool and let your heart lead. Basically what everyone has been saying for days.....

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