25, everything you are asking, I had answered on a post just for you. You never responded. Please look at my posts and you will see it.
Are you referrring to your post in August?
Those were very generalized, mostly centering about generic traits, and I've asked several times SINCE what your specific 180s are and all I get is your church stuff which is NOT a 180, or things you do like work out...
but how do you relate to your w now? Specifically how are you different with her?
What NEW activities (not Church related) are you engaging in?
Did you get a place to live? A new or better job?
You spent all of your lengthy post of 8-25 on MLC symptoms and I assume you were implying they apply to your wife--
But to me, so much of it sounded like you. Here are some things YOU wrote 5 months ago...compare them to how you sound now
and see if there's huge movement on Your end...
8-22 Oh and about the anger thing again, 20 years have I supported, sacrificed and given her EVERYTHING to at the end, just kick me out of her home to do what every the heck she wanted. Do you really expect me not to be angry? Give me some credit for still being there for her in EVERY way she needs me despite of the hell im going through but, I cant just let her walk all over me.
You see, in our marriage, she ALWAYS controlled the freinds I had, what was done in the house, the way we ate, the church we went to, the way we dressed, EVERYTHING. And I just went along with it. I did and still love her and did what every she asked. She always thought that marriage had NO room for freinds,clubbing and outings without your spouse. NOW she gets a boob job, tummy tuck and hair extensions and now she wants to change the whole story around. And IM supposed to accept this like its nothing? And NOT be angry?
LATER you said
About my 180's? All I can say about that is that I've learned lots of patience! In the past,i had a short fuse. I think most latin men do. I have taken control of my own bills. And, I've learned to budget. Her main complaints were we fight to much and I want handy in the house. To be honest, it got real bad after plastic surgery. That's when she changed.
The rest of the post^^^ mostly focussed on HER...
5 months later-
You are still as angry sounding and you still tell us all about what SHE/THEY are doing and it's always always bad.
She has done nothing kind or peaceful since?
I still get the feeling you believe None or not much of it was your fault and nothing on your end needs changing "Except" you have learned patience. Really? I don't sense that from you. A lot of small things she does or says bother you a lot. You must DETACH or keep spiralling.
You sound and defend your anger HERE...so I don't see it dissipating at all.
I get the need to vent. I DO...but that's all I see from you.
NO ACTIONS on your end --but for the gift of money for a L and a L visit...but that fell in your lap.
In other words, I am asking for...INSIGHTS from you about Your role in the demise of the marriage.
If you never find ANY then you won't change ANY of those behaviors...
And no, I'm not interested in hearing that you USED to be impatient "BUT you're Latin" so that's how it is... I think when you say "impatient" you mean
you have a temper. Is that a fair statement?
bottom line--
We help the person posting here and that's YOU b/c you are all you control.
I stand by my post.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
