Confused and alone

[Accuray]

nhmom,

He probably is having trouble deciding what he wants to do, but it is not a competition between you and OW. OW is really irrelevant. H was willing to entertain OW because he felt there was something missing or wrong in your marriage. His decision is stay or go, not nhmom or OW. Does that make sense? Try to ignore OW, she's a gnat, an annoyance. Neither she nor anyone else is competition for you. You are the mother of his child, you know him better than anyone. Focusing on OW is a distraction. If he comes back to you and the underlying issues are not addressed, there will be another OW potentially down the line, and that's why you focus on the root cause and not the symptom.

Now that I've said that, THAT SUX! My W kissed several OM's and when I found out I was crushed. It hurts so badly, but it is not about you, and it doesn't reflect on you, it reflects on them, their weakness, and their bad judgement.

I wish my W's OM had been 21 and brainless -- I would have known it was a fantasy. My W's OM was serious competition, and that made things extremely hard. If there's a silver lining here, there it is.

Accuray