Its good you found this site, its a lifesaver. I was in the same boat as you around a year and a half ago. ExacNow we are working towards reconciliation.....
I do think your H has an OW, by the way he behaves, most likely an EA.
Read my thread, its somewhat like yours.
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
