kat, what do you mean give Gabe the chance to man up? I'm not asking anything of him. I own what I've decided is acceptable and enough for me. If I bring up my own insecurities and lay them at his feet then I'm asking for commitments and answers from him. That is not what I want to do. Things are ok the way they are, rocking the boat would only lead to pain and I just can't take more of that.

Michelle - my desire to be secure is sick because it screams of being needy and I just can't be that anymore. I am ultimately responsible for making myself secure and whether he choses to stay or go should not dictate my security. I shouldn't count on anyone else for that. People will leave, I can't leave myself! smile I don't expect to have 'couple' security but my romantic heart that won't SHUT UP apparently does. I had that once and look what it led to. There is no part of me that is willing to trust like that again.


T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43
bomb12/4/07
PA5/07
S12/26/07
D final 11/17/08
Back together with no defined R 05/2010
confused....to say the least!!!