Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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I do feel like I am done and I am looking at filing for a formal separation to protect assets and start making this "real".

As to where he stays, it's only complicated from the perspective that he's only in town here about 4-5 days a month and I agree with his thoughts that it's really expensive to rent something if he won't be here using it. Plus, with the three kids, it's nice to have them in a stable environment. That's why having him stay in a bedroom for now may be fine. Is it optimal, no...but I'm not sure anything would be.

I'm not feeling vindictive like I need to expose him to people. I have felt that way through this process...but at this point, it's his life and I am focusing on myself. I'm pretty confident his relationship with OW will self-destruct at some point and not sure I want to act like I care enough to intervene. And honestly, if the affair blows up and he just ends up back with me as a last resort...why do I want to be in that situation for the rest of my life?

He needs to come back and fight for me and our marriage. Until I see that happen, I'm continuing on the path to separation.

I also think it's vital to try to end our relationship on a high note...we will be together forever through the three kids--parties, graduations, grandkids, etc.

We'll see if I can stay strong!