I really hope that her insecurities become more prevalent to H (because he's not really experienced that side of her- and as a GF, she would be untrusting and jealous.) The other problem I have is that H never felt like *my* knight in shining armor- mostly my fault because I never let him help or 'save' me.... so he gets BIG ego boost from her through all her 'problems'.... I can see this lasting for a while because he's been desperate to feel needed and gain his self-confidence back.
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I'm betting thats gonna get oooooollldddd faaaasst when he is a kazillion miles away, in a hell-hole, pretty much helpless to assist. In a way, it may even push him the exact opposite way as he will prob feel frustrated he can't help. AND if it does go this way is most def in your favor since he will probably appreciate that you're a woman who is strong, capable, and knows how to stand on her own two feet.
And I wonder if going dim is going to feel better as you go along? For me, I've been NC since Sunday (ya ya I know... three WHOLE days!! lol) and I feel FANTASTIC! I felt like a walking piece of poo on the weekend when I told him I missed him. I hope it does get easier for you Pur!!
