Retrouvaille means change

[angel61]

Hey, write a condensed version for us. Are you sure though that you would like to send that to your H? And all your family members? One of the things you learn in retrouvaille is not to tell much to everyone else, because it raises expectations, and also other peoples opinions can affect you. Remember, people all have different beliefs and levels of spirituality. Even my D sort of scoffs at us (she's a teenager) whenever we tell her she has t stay with friends for the day because we are going to attend a post. She once asked me if I believed that it would really work. I just told her "wait and see" but it sort of rocked my feelings.

I only confided to a couple of friends about what really happened - one who is a sort of spiritual nmentor to me, another who had the same thing happen to her and who is in piecing as well.

JOurnaling and pouring your heart out to your H will still be pressure, and will also overwhelm him.It is probably not in the category of "safe". Give him an emotional break. Just follow what Retrouvaille teaches - especially the 10/10 principle (you know that now, right?)There is a reason for this.

I hope you do get to attend the posts. They are very helpful.