Light at the end of the tunnel......

[NYCPeter]

Mach - I'm not sure how I can forget work.

I still need to provide financially as my W has been a SAHM.
NY state determines that 25% of my gross salary will go to the primary custodian (regardless of how much custody). Given my W's history as a SAHM and my history as the breadwinner the courts will impute my income if I decide to change jobs. So I cannot willingly change jobs to allow me more time with the girls - the court will impute the higher income.

Reality dictates that I cannot be 50/50 - once I have paid CS and alimony I would barely have enough for a home and pay the bills. I understand I would have a certain amount of respite - but with no local family I would need to pay for childcare on top.

Again - I'm being realistic on the likely outcome not placing limitations.