1. Put together a post D budget, figure out what I can afford and what will need to be pared back. 2. Look at properties in my town (or likely nearby towns) that will fit my post D budget to narrow down the likely living scenario. 3. List all the service providers for D10 - Contact them and see what services they offer for single fathers with no family locally. 4. Find new hobbies, my hobbies are very much summer activities - I need to find things to do in the winter. 5. Quit smoking - I've cut back, but need to quit completely. 6. Cook a new recipe once a fortnight - I love to cook, but tend to stick to things I know I can do.
Good list.....
On 1,2,and 3....
What is your timeline to have these accomplished ?
I think that once you start working toward these goals, you will feel a peace come over you.
I know it's not what you want, but it is what you need to do right now.
You should be working toward your goal of seeing your girls at least 50% of the time. They deserve that ...
Know your options first.
Imagine the surprise when she tells you that you can't, and you already have a plan that shows you can...
Originally Posted By: Pete
Re: moving out of the master bedroom - I don't want this to sound like an excuse. My D10 wakes up in the middle of the night, one of us usually brings her upstairs from the girls bedroom to the spare room (directly across from our bedroom) and lies with her until she falls asleep.
I need to discuss with my W how we are going to handle this if I move to the spare room as 1. We don't want D7 to wake up if we leave her in the girls room. 2. We don't want her to get used to sleeping alongside someone - it's a hard habit to break.
What does your typical week look like ?
Have you approached any kind of schedule that would mirror what life would be like after you physically separate ???
I know that you mentioned a family calender. I assume that is something that is kept online ? That you both have access to ??
I'm not a huge advocate of this, but I have seen in cases like yours, where there is a schedule, and whomever has "custody" that day, gets to keep the amenities of the house, whilst the non-custodial parent would sleep in a different part of the house.
You definitely have a unique situation, so the grounds for creative custody, should be fully in effect here.
What does custody look like for you ?
How do you envision that being down the road ????
Cause I'm sorry. Fantasy camp for the SAHM should end with the dismemberment of the marriage.
