I've read your post a few times between last night and this morning. To see if I feel any different about what I said yesterday to you...
I gotta say, I still see the same things.
I understand your frustration, and I understand why you feel the way you do.
What I also see , is that you still care a great deal about your wife.
And that you sound no different than what you describe her as being.
You are angry You are rewriting You are blaming You are justifying your choices You still allow yourself to be engaged in petty conversation with her, just so you can say I told you so
If this is untrue, then tell me and I will stop....
Thing is Sammy, you are sitting back, finding every reason for NOT doing any work for you, and blaming her for all of your troubles.
You mention the house....
And your dealbreaker is her letting this guy move in with her.
Isn't that house actually her Mothers house ????
So her dating, you will stand for her...
But him moving in you won't ???
You mention your children
Originally Posted By: Sammy
Remember, she has a great advantage. She has a home.
Yep, I remember. Something I have been on you about...
Originally Posted By: Sammy
The kids are not being neglected nor mistreated. So, I really have no grounds…
No grounds ??? Or is it just easier on you ?
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Originally Posted By: Sammy
I had a heart to heart with the kids yesterday. They are telling me that they are not happy. They miss their dad and they want me home. They told me that OM is nice but, they want me back me home. They tried to convey this to their mom and her reply was “ I spent years taking care of you guys, now its my turn to be happy!”
What a comment to tell your kids that right now, are such in a crucial development stage.
S13 is becoming very withdrawn, D10 is becoming very attached to me, and really doesn’t like being home, S4 is having angry outbursts and is becoming physically aggressive.
Dammit Sammy....
They are asking you to fight for them...
Why can't you see that ??
They are looking toward you for direction. You are correct, they are in a crucial stage of development in their lives.
What the hell are you showing them with your current actions ???
