I should clarify...I was not bringing him to church with me; he was going to meet me there. We would arrive separately and leave separately. He honestly would probably have little interest in coming to my church other than to see it as a way to spend time in my presence.

I certainly was not going to introduce him to my kids as my boyfriend. He is NOT my boyfriend and probably never will be. But who am I to tell him he isn't welcome to come to my church?

I wouldn't introduce people to my kids as my "significant other" unless they really were such.

I am kind of sad about this. This made me think again that it would be best to try to work things out. He says he doesn't want to. He wishes he could, because it would be good for our daughter and would make things easier on everybody.

This has been a setback for me. I was cruising along just fine. Seeing 2 different guys who enjoy my company. It is nice to have someone enjoy being with me rather than having someone spend time with me because he feels like he "has" to, not because he "wants" to.

Part of me wishes we could go back like it was in the beginning. Not just for the child, but for US. We were happy. I have developed a bit of my own intimacy issues. I have one guy I feel very safe and comfortable with because he is recovering from his own divorce and isn't looking to get serious. Just needs a friend. The other guy is in HOT pursuit and it makes me uncomfortable. I am afraid of getting in a new relationship. I am afraid of getting hurt, of loving more than I am loved, but most of all, I am afraid I'll get used for sex. I want to save sex and even deep kisses till I am in love with a man who wants to marry me. I was told by one man that men have sex first then decide whether they love the woman or not. I just about wanted to throw up when I heard that. I don't believe it, anyway. The right man for ME (if there is one) won't have that attitude and will respect me for my decision to "save myself" for my husband. So, I'm not a virgin, but I have decided to keep sex within marriage or at least wait till a formal engagement.

Since almost every man who has been interested in me wants to get into my pants after the first date, you can understand how I'm a little leery. I already have 2 kids with an ex husband and one child with a man who never wanted more than a "friends with benefits" relationship.

I am actually pretty cautious, I think. Why would I invite a man into my children's life when I'm not even sure I want him in MY life?