Hello Nblost - my name is Rogerio and I have been following your plight since the beginning: I am trying to build-up the courage to tell my own story. You are an amazing person. It appears to me you have come to realize you are so much more than what your husband has been providing/telling you since his affair began. If it were my wife doing what your husband is doing: refusing to give-up other woman; placing you and your children at risk (emotinally and financially), I would say, "I'm sorry you have not been able to make-up your mind as to whether you love me and the children enough to (first never having had an affair in the first place!)give-up the OM (OW in your case), but I have a solution for you: I will make the decision for you. Good-bye." In your instance I would first contact the other woman and discuss how he has been stringing you and your emotions along since they began their A, how it was impacting you and your family, and that he has lied to her about it. I would ruin his chances with her. I would also inform all my family, friends, his co-workers/boss of the situation (I am certain boss would not be pleased this were taking place while he was working for the company - and in effect giving them a bad name) so everyone would see what a rat he is. You say you are not interested in this drama anymore, and I truly understand where you come from. But I would also want to give him such a black-eye that he would never forget what he did, who he did it to, and the ramifications of his cowardly, narcassistic actions: no wife; no family; no friends; perhaps no job (you say you make a decent earning so you do not require his money), and finally no self-respect. Let him stew over that as you have done over these past many months. I only wish you all the best in whatever direction you take, but it sounds as though you don't really need my wishes or prayers, as you are a strong confident woman who will only come out of this mess stronger, more self-confident and amazing.
