Well that certainly suxxx but usually a WAS will soften up somewhat provided the LBS doesn't do the things that will cement the end of the M.
If you're like me you probably reacted in total shock and did every non-DB type thing known to man. If your M can survive this initial shock period (and its a shock to both), then there will be opportunity to allow things to happen for the better, but it requires a lot of time, way more than you will want it to be.
It's basically up to the LBS to create the environment to heal the M. You have to let the WAS go their own way, process all of the horror of how they feel, and when they finally do look back, hopefully you will be there doing everething the right way for yourself and to leave the door open for them.
