Thank you for your post... I would like to consider myself strong but to be honest this has rocked my world so deep that at times I feel I can hardly cope...
Detaching has been the most difficult, I have found that in the beginning i still lived my life as a "we" I made decisions based on the whole family not just me and the kids... now not so much...
I felt in the beginning that if H didnt hear from me he would forget or worse think I had... so there is a fine line for me from detaching and "moving on"...
a dear friend of mine brought to my attention that there is a bond between my H and I that will not allow him to forget, it may not be in the fore front of his mind right now but its there, which made it easier to let go a little.. so i started with a day of no contact and that moved to a week, then two weeks, it truly tore me up but then I started to re connect with good friends, and doing things that made me feel happy, strangely the mornings are the worst for me, so I focus that time on myself...now nearly a month has gone by and he is finding reasons to contact me... we "chat" we dont really talk.. he has told me he is lonely and I think that is good for now...Use this forum and read others posts, the more you ask for feed back the more you will get. My virtual "friends are more help then most of my "real" friends.. this site has truly saved me at times I was at my lowest.. please keep in touch.. I will go and read your sitch now..
m 41 h 44 d 17 (prev marriage) d 9 Never give up!!!!!
