Together since we were 15...Part 2

[MrBond]

"He says it's basically like a divorce."

So do you always do what your H tells you? You have a voice in this too. If you don't want a D, then you don't want a D. Simple as that. It doesn't matter what he says it is. It matters what YOU say it is to yourself.

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He says it's basically like a divorce. I'm sure he'd have filed by now if we were married.

I'm not sure what else to do. I'm letting him go, 'detaching', so that I may live my life without constantly focusing on him and wanting him to come home. What if he never does? He's made it very clear that he does not want to be with me and he wants to see what else is out there. Sure, he comes over here and cries and says it's bittersweet that I'm changing now and he wishes I would have while we were together, but that doesn't mean he wants to be with me. He's sad/down right now because his life isn't looking up like mine is.

"I worry that if I continue to hold onto the hope that we'll get back together, I won't move on and be happy again."

Let go of the fear. It's okay to have hope. Just don't cling onto it for dear life. Hope gives you the strength to live your life whether it's with or without your H.

Just let go and live. Keep building yourself up. You still mention your H's actions alot in your posts. How about just focusing on you for a change.