Confused and alone

[MrBond]

"I don't think H and OW are just "friends"."

But you don't know.

"He's emotionally vested in her."

Are you sure?

"H obviously has feeling for OW and has told our friend."

You didn't mention this before. What did your friend say?

"he knows what H is going through"

If this was the case, then he should be talking to your H.