Wife's Goal...Amicable Divorce! HELP!!!

[3rdStrike]

Thanks so much for the reminders and the support. I can't tell you how much it lifted my spirits to have the support from another person who is going through it too.

I have read it and I had her back working on things in September and I got complacent and let a fight happen out of my jealousy in early December. For her this was the breaking point. She acted as if everything was cool over the holidays and then dropped the bomb again on 1/4/12. She fired our marriage counselor and luckily or not we have a new one. But her goal in counseling is to exit the marriage while mine is to save it.

I really need to find the inner strength to follow the rules and follow through with the program. Not sure how to deal with having to put my thoughts and feelings out there with the new marriage counselor though.

I really need to let go of trying to contro the outcome of this regardless of how terrible the collateral damage and long term effects are on the kids. If I love them, I guess I have to just trust in that higher power and the program to work.

I guess in the end, if she is going to leave me, there is nothing I can really do to stop her. My greatest fear is that if she does leave and has a change of heart later that the damage may be to great for me to return to the table.