Confused and alone

[BklynMom]

nhmom - STAY COOL. Your H is not sleeping with this woman and the only thing your anger will do is lead him to sleep with her. Start acting.

I believe my H was also having an emotional affair when he dropped the bomb. I really dont think my H would admit to that because he didnt even know it was happening. She was a friend and they worked together and they werent hooking up so he wasnt doing anything wrong.

If your H is a "good guy" he prob thinks the same thing.

Dont give your H the ability to talk trash about you to this OW. oh my wife is a rage-aholic, she is demanding, she not loving...

Be the opposite. Be so loving and understanding. That is what OW is doing.

My H took the OW with him and my girls apple picking in October. My d3 told me OW went. It nearly killed me but I said nothing.

Right now I think my H relationship with OW has faded. They dont work together any more so they have less of an excuse. She is in her 20s and from what I can tell has a life that doesnt involve hanging with young kids.

The OW in your case has a man. She probably doesnt realize wtf she is doing. She does not think she is cheating.

Stay cool. Vent here. Call a coach.

"his is not the man I have known for the past 13 years and nobody can turn off feeling at the flip of a switch."

My H also totally flipped a switch. Dont know if you read my whole thread, but the week before ILYBNILY, H and I were putting bids down on houses. H had just told me we would never get a divorce - "that would never happen to us, baby"

Then he flipped a switch. I believe we both can switch it back. Lets stay cool together.