I had a heart to heart with the kids yesterday. They are telling me that they are not happy. They miss their dad and they want me home. They told me that OM is nice but, they want me back me home. They tried to convey this to their mom and her reply was “ I spent years taking care of you guys, now its my turn to be happy!”
What a comment to tell your kids that right now, are such in a crucial development stage.
If this is really an MLC, it came at a REAL bad time. I know, I know, there is never really a “good time” for it to come…
S13 is becoming very withdrawn, D10 is becoming very attached to me, and really doesn’t like being home, S4 is having angry outbursts and is becoming physically aggressive.
All monies that I have been giving W has stopped as of 3 months ago. Everything that the kids need, I buy myself.
Once the money had stopped, the venom spewing became worse. But hey, she was calling me every dirty name in the book even when I was giving her money…
Now, the personality changes are becoming more and more obvious…
One moment she’s calling me a pathetic excuse for a human being, the next, she asking me to buy her earrings, bracelets and teddy bears.
Um, what does she have her man for?
This past weekend, W almost got in a car accident. She had texted me in the morning telling me what happened and that its all my fault because she says that I’m wishing bad things upon her. W is still (voluntarily) not working even though she has a master’s degree. She’s dropped out of school and physically looking terrible. She randomly texts me stories of things that are happening to her which are all lies.
Friends and family are telling she deserves everything that’s happening to her. I, for one, am really scared and worried for her and my children.
I remain going to counseling and still am very active at church and concentrating on getting physically better.
I’m praying that she comes out of this soon. Not for me, but for our kids and her well being. I’m really hoping that we can get along in a civil manner in the future. I’ve been forgiving her every day.
Sometimes, I feel like my 20 years with her was a dream. Hopefully, I will see her again sometime.
Stay well everyone…
Me: 37 W: 37 Married Feb 14 1997 Seperated Thanksgiving weekend 2010 No divorce filed yet 1st born son:13 2nd daughter:9 3rd son:4 Trying hard to detach
