Moving forward together and piecing

[Harrier]

Ctflor, I've read your whole story (I think) and I am kinda worried for you and your situation.

The throwing the glass against the wall was, frankly, shocking to me.

I think you are carrying a lot of hurt, resentment and anger from your first M to the situation now. It sounds like you never really processed the cheating from your first M in a healthy way and it's coming out big time. H's actions triggered all that.

I really don't think praying is going to help your anger.

I read the situation with the CDs as a huge positive. I mean he was getting rid of that stuff and trying to do it in a way not to hurt you. Yet you turned it around on him.

I don't know of anyone who wants to live in a relationship where their SO could go off at any time and have that held over their head forever and ever. You've done this a couple of times in a few short weeks.

There are lots of techniques to help get your anger under control.

There is so much out of your control that can trigger your anger. Facebook, a song on the radio, your H on the computer, etc. I think it's a mistake to think you can just "avoid" your way out of this.

If money is an issue with therapy, you could start with the library and the self-help section. I can think of a couple of titles that could help you grow from this and work toward a place of forgiveness.

Because right now, it's not a good place for you, him or your daughter.

I hope for the best with you.