Any observations or things I could have handeled differently?
Stiil pretty LRT. Have not spoke to her in awhile.
Yes you need to get to where you're not counting the days.
You need to get to where when she initiates a conversation it doesn't throw you out of detachement.
Detachment is your friend. And your pain will guide you there.
Learn to control your thoughts which will help you control your emotions about those thoughts.
I put a rubber band on my wrist and when I thought about W I would snap it.
Stupid but it worked.
That is the goal right now to detach and GAL.
THAT will get your self esteem back.
THAT will allow you to make the changes in yourself because you are not dwelling on why your W wants to leave you.
IMO you must decide something first.
You must decide to go on this journey.
I always ask it this way:
What are you prepared to do for your M if you are NOT guaranteed it can be saved?
What did YOU mean when you said your vows? I will love and honor you all the days of my life
BUT
If you get scared and confused and lose your way...
I won't.
This is not about your W right now it is about you. Leave her be.
There is no magic here. No tricks. Nothing guaranteed. Make changes for you, not for an outcome because if they are not for real she will sniff you out like a drug dog at the Miami airport.
What do YOU value? What kind of man do you aspire to be?
When you look in the mirror do you see a man YOU respect?
If you don't it is time to get busy.
For me?
When I looked in the mirror I didn't want to see a guy who was running away because he got kicked in the jimmy.
How 'bout you my friend?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
