If so, then you need a 2x4. In my opinion, that's the pursuing defined, and the most opposite from going dark
No offense, but if I was a jerk, I would be envious of your H's position. He has to do minimal work with the D (you are always there to bail him out), he gets to have a girl friend, and when ever he needs a quick, different gal, all he has to do is have you over to the apartment and ML is a sure thing.
As someone else here suggested, your H sounds like he's a teenager. Give him a dose of the real world, go dark, GAL, do 180s. The worst thing that will happen is that you'll be a better person from it. The best thing that could happen is that he grows up and respects you.
I am sorry if that sounds harsh. Just my untrained 2 cents.
Me: 43 W: 37 Together: 18 M: 15 D: 8 yrs old ILYBNILWY: March 2011 She Filed for D: August 2011 She moved out: Sept 1, 2011 Reconciled: May 2012 Divorce Case dropped: July 2012
