What else could I have done?

[antlers]

The youngest daughter is 15 and lives with her mom. Our relationship is strained because of the divorce, and because of how I used to be.
The oldest daughter is 22 and lives with her boyfriend. That relationship is also strained because of the divorce, and because of how I used to be.

There is some detailed information about all of this on this thread. Don't spend much time with youngest since about last November...her choice. Haven't seen oldest since early last Summer...her choice.