Seems the one thing all MLCer's have in common is being strange about finances. Some spend wildly, others seem to become very possessive and secretive about money.
My H had always been somewhat possessive at times and very generous at others. With the onslaught of MLC he became very secretive about it and very much had lines about what was his and what was mine. He definitely became very irritated if he felt he was asked to give more than what he wanted to. It was his money, he earned it and it didn't matter who needed it or for what. He felt he'd given enough over the years and he was done.
Your H at least seems to care enough to make sure his family has enough to follow their paths.
I also know that's not enough to fulfill other needs that have gone unmet for a long time.
