you don't sound like a broken record (yet) and your reply to your Godchild was...in a word, Godly.
Good for you. It's exactly what I would have said.
Don't expect the d to openly turn against her mom, and tell YOU
but she may confide in a friend, and say "WTF?!!"
Heck YES she'd be confused. And sooo disappointed in her mom. (I can't imagine) Oh, and considering what her father sounded like, she's batting 0 for 2 w/parents...real nice role models...
You could probably maintain contact with her in some FB or private way and never ever bring up POS or h. [i]But that may have to wait awhile. [/i]
Hey sidenote--my h is an MD and says he's done the ASD surgeries (that is he does anesthesia for the surgeries,) and feels your odds are much better than you are hearing. Just saying that the modern surgeries for patch placement or defect repair is a lot safer than before. Maybe your info is old. Don't be hopeless about that please. You have plenty of years left here.
Get 2nd opinions if you need to - and yes you can do that in the military.
Take care of yourself, make new friends, GAL and hold your head high.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016