Well, we agreed to both go our separate ways, but after 2 weeks of calm, he decided I was moving too fast with a new guy I have met (actually have known casually for a couple of years, but he is moving in on me now that I'm "available"). The 'new' guy was going to come to church with me but my daughter's father decided that he didn't want her to go to church with me if another man was going to be sitting with me.
I really over reacted. Maybe. I pretty much exploded and told him this was they same old, "I don't care what you do, but if you have another man in your life, she doesn't need to be spending so much time with you." My choice, to have my daughter in my life, or a man. I don't think any judge would give him more time with her. He has her almost half the time right now, and I don't think anyone would give him more than that.
I told him this is just going to keep happening. And as our daughter gets older and talks more about what is going on in her life when she is with me, he will always be looking for something to get upset about.
I would like to try again to work things out with him. He won't leave me in peace. He will always be interfering in my life. If he is the man in it, he will have less to worry about.
I have been thinking how this reminds me of when I was pregnant with a unwanted child and I had two hard choices..adoption or keeping her. Either one would cost a lot, but I think in the end I made the right decision. It was 100% MY decision, though. What kind of relationship I have with my child's father is not 100% up to me.
