Bklyn and Mac...patience is important but I think more important is two fronts. One is truly knowing your WAS has to do this in order to redefine themselves and find true answers and the other is knowing you have your own life that also needs work.
If you can truly love your spouse and let them find their way, and realize that you are in charge of your own happiness then its not so much patience in an intolerable sitch but a sweet surrender to love and the universe.
My wife has told me she loves me more times this past weekend then all of the past year combined. I'm certainly not immune to wanting the perfect marriage in my hands right now when she says this to me....but I chose to love her and respect her and let her take as long as she needs. I don't know if we will fully reconcile. We probably will but if not I have found a peace like never before. I could not have done this without people like you.
