BklynMom - maybe I need to take an acting class as part of my GAL? I've realized that I am really bad at acting and hiding my feelings. Why do these emotions get in the way? Why do my eyes swell up with tears so easily?
Purg - Thanks for sharing your tools. I will have to give it a try.
I really think that there must be OW for H to say what he says and to act the way he does. This is not the man I have known for the past 13 years and nobody can turn off feeling at the flip of a switch. I'm very discouraged at the fact of OW because I can't do anything about it and an A can last months (well, apparently the average length of an affair is 2 years). And while OW or thoughts of OW are in the pictures, H will not come to his senses. The thing is, if he moves out, then that means that I will have to find a new place to live, too. I will not be able to pay rent for our current apartment by myself. So lots of planning to do in the near future. H wants to split things 50/50 or with what we came into R. Umm, EVERYTHING we have we bought together, so yeah, why don't we cut our bed in half? Funny, H never mentioned D, just all the other stuff that lead to it.