How 2 balance detaching & improving communication?

[BklynMom]

She is being cruel and selfish and immature. You are correct.

You have to be bigger. You cant say things like "maybe you should make a little more effort" because even if your right its not getting you the results you want.

Being right is not gonna make her come back. Being chill will make her come back.

Even though I am a girl, my New York attitude always told me if I didnt speak up and defend myself I am a wimp and a sucker. That attitude is wrong. That attitude got me where I am today.

Now when people say or do things that bother me I try not to say anything and just think about it. Then the next day if what they did still bothers me I can say something without sounding angry & mean but most of the time it doesnt bother me the next day.

I practice with my mom, cause even though I love her - she can really annoy me!

ps. When your kid was giving her ish, you should have told him to quit it - he shouldnt give his mom ish