All of those things got me nowhere. In fact, I would argue that they worked against me. That is the hook in DR that really drew me in - MWD knew what I had been doing, and knew that it was failing.....miserably. That book, and that realization brought me to the amazing people on this board.
I have never told my wife that I am happier with her being gone. But I believe that she believes that.
I have to trust that giving her space and time is a good thing. Perhaps as grmpy said, "to heal". I just feel like I get farther and farther away from her head and heart. You're right - I noted awhile ago that this DB business is counterintuitive. I feel like I have isolated my w, perhaps for the best.
