There are a lot of people who enjoy catering to their spouse with things like breakfast in bed every sunday.
So yes, doormat really is a matter of perspective. And yes, if it's done out of fear, then it's probably doormat behaviour...
Originally Posted By: ANS
Sorry folks, I’m gonna hijack this thread for a bit of journaling.
I do not know if that is allowed. One of the moderators should be along soon enough to let you know if you can do that...
Originally Posted By: ANS
Of course, there’s nothing I can do to show anyone how screwed up all of this is. Just wonder. Will it become evident to anyone?
OK, I say that in NOT every situation, if it looks like cheese, it is cheese...
Still, observable human behaviour is pretty standard stuff that is internationally understood.
When we spend a lot of time with someone of the opposite sex (my acknowledgment and respect to our same sex members), there is no doubt a bond that is made that moves beyond "standard" friendships... If these people are single, then most around them will be whispering about how good they look together and offering suspicions that the two are dating...
That doesn't change just because one or both of those two are married... to other people... it just changes to tone from "aren't they cute, they should be dating" to "aren't they cute, they should have an affair"
As kids will pick up on stuff like that (and unfortunately this behaviour can be "normalized" to them), so do adults...
So having said all that, I am sure that if there isn't knowledge of something "more", there is most likely suspicions... or there eventually will be... and in some circles, it will even be open...
