I just feel like the more time that passes, the further removed she gets from me and any real estate I had in her heart starts to contract. DB is tough. I never really know the right things to do, especially when it comes to communiction about the relationship - which I have totally avoided. DB would suggest just pull back and wait for her to come to you. I DON'T KNOW if her asking for this was her "coming to me" or not. I want it to be that - but maybe I want it too much.
I just feel like doing nothing but giving distance (Which I have been doing)is harming and not helping - though I CAN see the case that can be made about giving space and time. I am so lost. I just want my W and S back, and I don't know how to go about it.
The way to do this, is to LIVE.
Crimson,
DB is counterintuitive. It goes against what we logically want to do. It feels uncomfortable and confusing.
Here is a question for you since feeling like giving her distance isn't helping.
Did begging, pleading, pursuing, asking her to go to counseling etc...get her to do any of those things?
Right now, you have an amicable R with her. Don't screw it up.
Keep your communication simple, light, and honest like that post of your's that Mach quoted.
Be happy, simply because you are happy.
Stop trying to mindread. Your W doesn't necessarily think you are happy because she is gone. Unless you have actually said that to her, don't worry about correcting it.
Right now, she thinks what she thinks. No matter what you say.
Just be.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
