have you read the DB or Div Remedy books? NOWHERE is the telling of the OPs family listed as an option.
It's punitive and vindictive, no matter if you say it's under the guise of "honesty" and a feigned attempt at "morality". To me that's self righteous nonsense and you do not understand DB.
You are making it about "being right" and not about being happy. And you are making yourself the arbiter of what is right as well. 3, please, at least read the DB books first before you do something you will regret.
Understand the philosophy underlying this site. Know it first, then design a campaign for your marriage if that is what you want (and i sense ambivalence on your end that has nothing to do with whether there was a PA or not but perhaps, b/cyou want an excuse to bail??)
Think before you act.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016