Met with my IC tonight. Best session so far. She called me on stuff and challenged me about my behavior with W. One theme was that I never was a true participant in deciding things for the family. That decisions were made about D but that I never was involved until the decision were made between W and D. I was always informed afterwards. She said that a mature man would have said something to W instead of becoming resentful and later becoming verbally abusive. Truth is that I was not aware as to how much it bothered me.Since this sitch Many things have surfaced that I never acknowledged or just denied.
We talked about what I have learned so far. I told her what I thought and she tSaid hat I have learned alot about me and said the she knew how painful growth was. No kidding.
She wonders why I stay at home and why I have not moved. My L said to stay I told her.That is it for now
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
