W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P2

[Snowman]

Kaffe,

My W has already filed on me and says she has papers to give me but she has not yet. Many months ago we had agreed on doing the stipulation route vs. fighting it out in court. I'm not sure if that's what papers she has for me but she claims to have them.

The letter will either push her to give them to me or retract the whole thing. If no action is taken from 120 days that she filed (12-30-11) then the filing expires. I really don't want to go that long by any means.

I do like the perspective of the letter that you propose as it removes resentment and negative thoughts. I thought my W would be affected by her mother's near death experience during this but it barely phased her. You can read my old posts to read about that.

Am I suppose to post the letter on here 1st for review?

I will work on the letter this week when I don't have my S.

sgctxok,

Thanks for your insight, I agree completely. I can only tell bits & pieces of the story because typing it would take a novel. I don't like people making harsh judgements about me or other people on here when they have never met the person and only have tiny pieces of stories (Mr. Bond).

I will need to step back and assess really what I want. In general I want to stay with my W but not in my old marriage as that one is dead. I want a new marriage with improvements in me and changes in her without the current lifestyle that she is living. I obviously need to go a lot deeper than this but on the surface this is what I would want.

I'm afraid that my family could NEVER trust or take back my W after all that has transpired and lets just say this is not the first rodeo in my family of a situation like this. My family is very forgiving and has a diverse background of people/problems among the relatives but the pain caused to me and my family that loved my W so deeply has cut them very deep. My family was her family because hers was not to her. Yet another underlying issue to what I think my W's issues are (I know I'm speculating but I'm only that can do that as I have most of the story and you the reader do not).