Thanks Kaffe, I've been doing that for day to day things, and passed up an all expense paid 5 day trip already saying that I couldn't get away because H was making plans for around the same time.

Now friend is asking about plans for another trip and wants to know when my calendar is open. I'm a pretty busy person but I don't know how to avoid this for the whole year.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.