Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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We had a counseling session last week and discussed that. H will take the kids away the next two weekends he has them (he has things to take them to for various reasons). So, he has about a month to figure things out.

Our counselor liked the idea of me letting him stay in the downstairs bedroom if he's only home a couple weekends a month. I didn't like it at first, but as we talked, I realized I could potentially do it for awhile. The only problem is then I don't get my own space and time on the weekends and he can monitor what I'm doing.

The hotel thing is definitely an option but I'm sure would get old for the kids after awhile. (fun in a way, but they wouldn't have their toys or friends) H said he could also potentially get a place. The issue with that is that we live in an expensive area (very expensive) so H would pay a lot of his/our money for something he wouldn't use much.

This was the same session where H declared he still doesn't know what he wants and he doesn't want a divorce.

The whole thing may eventually point to how unsustainable this whole situation is...but hard to know which way things would fall.

Sadly, what is going to come through the most is how much H's job and new relationship are meaning that he is abandoning his kids.