Wife's Goal...Amicable Divorce! HELP!!!

[3rdStrike]

Well, we made it to the new marriage counselor on Saturday. Thank god that the counselor aske some very important questions about W's mental health and possible depression and suicide ideations. She finally intervened and recommended that my wife seek the advice of a psychopharmacologist and get her medication situation straightened out and monitored to hopefully find some relief from her depression.

Unfortunately, W spent the rest of the weekend in deep depression rarely getting out of bed. I just took care of the house, kids, and her and tried to tell her it wasn't her fault she felt that way. I tried to say positive things but she goes out of her way to withdraw from me emotionally, physically, etc.

Then came the switch. Last night I got her out of bed to keep an eye on the kids while I went to a meeting. She was slow at first but when I returned home she was doing laundry and getting the kids ready for the next day's events before bed.

In the bedroom that night she was very discontent and seemed angry. I tried to not really give a lot of attention to her sighs and shifting in the bed as we watched TV. I did ask a couple of times if she was alright. She would say yes and not speak after that.

When the show was over, I rolled over and just looked at her for a while because she had that troubled, dejected look on her face. She then came out of the shell and said, "I feel trapped". I asked her why and she said "because of the kids". I told here that I was not holding her back from anything and that those feelings were reasonable to have. I said that we owe our kids better than to just give up and quit, but that I was not in charge of her life and that I planned to be happy regardless of her decision to stay or go. I told her that I was intent on being happy with my mate and that I hoped it would continue to be her.

Anyway, I am still just as confused since she seems to be very conflicted. She agrees that if we really put in the effort to work on our relationship that we could be happy. She says she just doesn't want to. She also says that the primary thing driving her to leave is that she is still unhappy (only 4 months after the affair ended) and that she doesn't hold any hope for us.

I want so bad to just check out emotionally and live my life but I feel that I will be being disingenuous if I do. I don't want to give up on my marriage or my the family unit. I believe in this thing so much but I know I can't convince her.