be happy b/c no matter what twist YOU fear she'll put on it ("I knew you would be"--means either she's the problem OR that you don't really care for her --- but you'll show her in other ways that you DO)
the alternative of being miserable, is NOT appealing or attractive.
I don't know how else to say that or hammer it in. Being happy and content is a positive trait (that's why Aristotle said "happiness is a virtue" b/c he knows we create it for ourselves)
and being sad or discontent, let alone depressed or morose is, quite frankly, a tad repulsive. SORRY!!!
When my h began to want to reconcile he mentioned that he had not gone outside Other than work, in a few days, He said "I think I'm a little depressed"...and later in the talk he mentioned missing me and the kids...yes it struck me. But I didn't want to be his cure. I wanted to be his partner.
Don't lay the responsiblity of your happiness in her lap and think she'll want to pick that up.
Okay? You can convey that you want her in your life without being sad.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
