Michelle ~ UGH what a icky situation but probably you can go and DB at the same time.....Get dolled up go with a girlfriend, drop a bottle of wine....stay long enough to be seen and say hello to everyone then leave because your going out to dinner (whatever) with your girl!

Tell R that you will stop by and say Hello that evening.

Don't help him throw the party or clean up from it and make sure your not there the whole evening,....make him notice your absence and dolling yourself up to go out with a girlfriend while he is stuck at home entertaining friends...is priceless.

M:47
M:18
D16, S19
1st S 1/08-5/08
Reconciled/May 7, 2008
Left again Nov 9, 2009
I Filed: Nov 17, 2009
Final: April 14, 2010
EX walked away from kids too