I think gabbysmom23 answered your questions very well. Do you honestly think your wife, or any other woman, is gonna be attracted to a whiney, crying, miserable man? The answer is a resounding NO.

There is no down side to you being happy, if you are, in this situation.

"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.