Forgiveness

[antlers]

I had felt as you - angry, hurt, bitter. I'm not angry anymore. Hurt, yes. But I'll live. And I intend to live well. Not really bitter anymore either. I could not imagine forgiving him as he not only showed no remorse but also continued to inflict pain on us. I couldn't have imagined forgiving her either only a short time ago...but I did. And it's been very helpful to me. And she's never shown any remorse either. She still harbors resentment, and I still think she'd hurt me in any way she could to this day.
"HE WHO ANGERS YOU, CONTROLS YOU" I agree. I'm no longer angry. I'm sad more than anything else. My point is - if a letter will make a difference - do it. He seems to think it will help...if it does...great. If you are just telling her that you forgive her and are letting go. I'm not telling her that I forgive her...that's for me. Telling her that I'm letting go...that's for us both. Again, with the understanding that actions speak louder than words. It might help with the kids. Because actions DO speak louder than words. Agree wholeheartedly. And time heals all wounds. I think that I must take positive actions during that passage of time...and not just depend on the passage of time alone, in order to heal.