Well, do you honestly think you can stop pursuing her? Yep. Stop asking for and looking for forgiveness? Yep. Mentioning it to my brother in the text was said in a way that was for her benefit. Stop rehashing the past and mention all the things you've done wrong and how she hurt you wen she left? Yep. But I didn't do that in the text that I sent him.
Can you honestly do that? Yep. Can you just keep your conversations limit to strictly co-parenting? Yep.
Because from that text to your brother...... I don't know. I don't know how you get to that from what I wrote to him. Explaining some things to him and wishing her well, and meaning it, spoke to him evidently. He thought it was important to convey to her. I am all about co-parenting, but if you can not let these things go and mention them even passive aggressively when you are speaking of your children, your chances of co-parenting may not work. The pursuit is OVER. He thought it might help if she KNEW that. She will push away again and get angry all over again. Hopefully that behavior will be over if she knows the pursuit is over. And also if she knows that I wish her well. That will only make things worse for the kids. He got involved to make things better for the kids...that's why he talked to her at all.
You need to make a commitment if you are going to communicate with your wife regarding your children, you leave everything else out.
I am committed to letting go and moving on with my life without her; I still want my children to be OK. I do wish her well. I have forgiven her for the hurt that she caused me. That has been a blessing to me so far...being able to honestly do that.
"Always go straight forward, and if you meet the devil, cut him in two and go between the pieces." - William Sturgis, clipper ship captain, 1830's.
