I know! My reply to his was SO full of neediness. I agree! It's pretty gross. But in a way - because I have no real hope (fantasy hope yes, actual concrete hope nope) that we are staying together, I guess it doesn't really matter. Except it is undignified for me.
It’s not a requirement on the boards to be dignified. IMHO, dignity is something that is deep within yourself. Not feeling good about your sit is not undignified. Posting your feelings may not project dignity, but it doesn’t mean you don’t have inner dignity.
Expressing your apprehensions to your SO does not project dignity; which doesn’t help any DB efforts, to say the least, but it does not nullify your inner dignity.
Hi purgatory... Maybe that’s a way you can think about dignity too. Dunno. I think you both have a lot more dignity than you give yourselves credit for.
Originally Posted By: Oneeleven
Thanks so much for listening to my gripes. I still of course have flickers of hope, but not very much.
We listen to your gripes for the very reason I alluded to above. So you can vent whilst keeping your inner dignity intact. Gripe away!
And as far as “flickers of hope,” I found a quote awhile back that I think covers that sentiment very well:
Quote:
Expect the best, plan for the worst, and prepare to be surprised. - Denis Waitely
You’re making all kinds of assumptions about what your SO will do. Of course, you know him well enough to see patterns, so I’m not going to blow off your perceptions. I’d just say that you don’t really know what will happen in the coming weeks. “Flickers of hope” may not be such a bad thing as long as you don’t turn them into expectations.
