On the verge, have I caught this thing?

[sandi2]

Has there ever been an EA/PA from either of you in the past?

After many of these arguments I had asked for us to go to counseling but she wouldn't be in it.

What reason did she give for not going to counseling?

The counselor said she'd need to tell this OM it's over in front of someone else and leave her job. If she could do this I think I could, but how do I know he doesn't pursue her even when she's left, he's said to her he's willing to leave his wife for her. She lied about this, she could as easily lie about not hearing from him again.

Unless your W convinces OM that she no longer wants him, he probably will continue to pursue. If she tells him that she's breaking it off to try to save the M, etc., then that is telling him that the door is still open. It's more of "I don't want you. I want my H." kind of thing.

Am I supposed to just take her in my arms and give her all the things she's craving? If not will she still be hungry for him?

Are you saying that is why she's involved with this OM, is b/c she wasn't getting what she craved from you?

Let me put it this way, you will be extremely lucky if that's all you have to do.....just take her in your arms and give her what she craves.

So I can't get the OG out of my mind, and can't get to sleep. I asked W when they were last physical, it was last week in the afternoon, after we had been physical in the morning. I picture the two of them together, he lives in the area, I want to track him down, or 'bump' into him on the way to work. When I picture us reconciling I see her still thinking about him, comparing.

But you wanted her to admit to a PA, remember? You wanted to hear the truth, but now you can't handle the truth.