you have a long thread, and while i could not read it all, i did have a couple of impressions from what i did read.
first, for what it is worth (keeping in mind i have not read your whole story), i sense your wife still has some emotional engagement with you. the fact that she can show some anger or irritation at what you are doing suggests this. also, she has not finished her own paperwork for her lawyer. while this may or may not mean anything on it's own, i encourage you to be aware of similar potential signs of ambivalence or mixed feelings on her part. since you seem to be following a GAL strategy it would not surprise me at all if the dynamics of your relationship are shifting.
does she ever initiate conversations with you, and if so, what are they about?
