Indecision and the affair continues (Part 2)

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H called from OW's city yesterday and was "friendly". I had written him an email before he left for his 10-day trip to express some of my feelings. He said he appreciated the note and would respond.

Good.

I am feeling "extremely" detached. Probably detached to the point where it isn't really how I feel. My H believes we turned a corner last weekend and I have changed. I think that is true.

Good. Keep the changes in place, and stay as detached as you can. Getting detached in the first place is a process, not an event.

I feel like I would still work on our marriage and I want to keep our family together...but H would need to completely end the affair and beg me to try again.

GOOD.

I agree...given how long his affair has gone on and how ridiculous he's been...I think this is how I should feel.

It is precisely how any human being with a functioning brain feel after they have experienced what you have.

Stay strong NB.